… Is it really so easy as to see a hot young guy and jump right on in there?
Stepping out with a younger man requires confidence. Choosing the first younger guy who comes along (because he’s better than nothing), is doomed to end in failure. You need to be in the right place mentally and emotionally to deal with a relationship of any kind, let alone one with a younger man.
Perhaps you’re recently divorced, and think a younger guy will boost your morale – and be a bit of fun. And perhaps it will be. But stepping back onto the dating scene requires courage – particularly with a younger man. Some people will tell you the best way to recover from your past relationship is to put yourself right back out there, but unless you have taken the time to evaluate what caused the break-up of your past relationship, and have learnt the lessons that resulted from it, you’re probably better to go gently and find yourself someone with whom you share much in common to ease back in to the dating game – that person may be someone closer to your own age. Emotional baggage is a sure-fire turn-off for most men, especially for younger guys who lack the life experience to be able to relate to and empathise with the ghosts of your past.
If a past relationship has left your self-esteem in shreds, the attention of a younger man can be a much-needed boost. On the negative, low self-esteem can also leave you vulnerable to those with less scrupulous intent. Not all men have good intentions, and sometimes, if our guard is down, we are vulnerable to emotional, financial or other kinds of abuse.
We women love to nurture. It is in our nature to be caring for others, but if a guy’s intent is simply to ‘bag himself a cougar’, when the party ends, it can be even harder to pick yourself up and get back out there and find a relationship that gives, as well as takes. Many young men, are by their very nature selfish, and if you’re feeling emotionally bruised, a man who can give love back is an essential part of your recovery process.
However, if you’re past the ‘emotional recovery’ stage and are feeling good about yourself and good about life – there’s nothing hotter to a younger guy than a woman who exudes that calm, assured confidence of one who has lived, loved, learnt and neatly packaged her baggage of the past away. If you’re in the ‘right place’ then a younger guy can bring energy, vibrancy and vivacity into your life in ways an older guy simply can’t match. Why not try a little window shopping at Toyboywarehouse.com? After all, there’s no harm in looking, is there?
© Beyond Cougar
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In fact I have never tried to grab any Guy. But ever since my college times I always had younger men falling for me like male bees getting attracted to the Queen Bee,lol. Even though majority of times i have felt embaressed it also gave me a major ego boost. Having dated and married a younger guy I can say i have no complaints.
Me either! I dated quite a few younger guys before I married my husband, but there was never quite such an age gap as there is between me and my now-husband. I think if you are the kind of woman who loves life, has confidence and a sense of self-assurance, younger guys just love that in a woman. We’re living proof, lol!
Jo