About The Blog
Beyond Cougar started in January 2010, as a resource for women who love younger men (in a non-cougary kind of way). Sure, there’s plenty of stuff online about ‘Cougars’ (shudder) – but very little for those who are in serious, committed and enduring long-term relationships with younger men, who refuse to be defined by the age of the men they choose to date.
All of the content you read here is my own. I don’t post to article sites and I don’t re-post material belonging to others that you may have seen elsewhere. This is all exclusive content to Beyond Cougar. You may see my content on one or two other sites, but be sure it’s been published here first. I only link to content and people I genuinely believe may be of interest to my readers, and only give link-love to blogs that I think matter.
Although Beyond Cougar is still in its infancy, I plan to develop the blog to become the go-to resource for women who are in relationships with younger men, and to celebrate our relationship successes! Of course, no relationship is all smooth sailing, and having been there and done that, I hope that together we can share our experiences for others to learn from, whatever stage they are at in their journey.
Older women and younger men may be a hot topic in the media right now, but these relationships have been happening since time began, and will undoubtedly continue long into the future. As more and more women discover just how much fun loving a younger man can be, society as a whole is being forced to reevaluate these relationships and give them the recognition they have long been due.
Whether your younger man is for now, or for a lifetime, here is where you’ll find resources to make that love last, or see the signs that it’s time to say goodbye.
Please be sure to leave your comments, share your experiences and join me in helping to prove to the world that age is a number in their eyes only.
To contact me personally, send an email to this address
Jo
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Saw your article on TBW and was interested to read your site. I’ve always been involved with younger men – the age gap increasing as I’ve got older – at 24 a 19 year old – then met my husband when he was 22 and I was 32! And agree with you about who pressures who – he was the one who wanted to get married – I was the one who had to think about it!! We were together 10 years in total and only spilt up because he grew up and I never did, plus he always wanted children and I found I couldn’t and wasn’t prepared to take it to IVF. But that could be grounds for a break up whatever the age!
Since joining TBW I have been amazed at the interest from guys in their 20s and have met quite a few. One in particular with whom I’ve become very close is only 22 (I’m 55). He actually gets quite upset when I say it can’t realistically have a future – but we should just enjoy today however long that lasts! (I agree with you that some age gaps are insurmountable for a really long term future!) But we have similar tastes, interests, talk for hours on the phone and never tire of each others’ company – how good is that?!
As you say in your blogs – it’s not so much about the physical years as the mental age.
You make reference in one of your blogs to being able to subscribe to this site. Is this right? Can’t see how?!
Cheers
Claire
Hi Claire,
Thanks for stopping by – what an inspirational story! And how interesting that you were the one in your marriage that never grew up. So far, hubby and I seem to be maturing at about the same rate – fingers crossed it stays that way.
I think younger guys make the best companions – there is always things to talk about and those different perspectives make for endless conversation. Enjoy today and tomorrow will sort itself out, as I’m sure someone far wiser than me once said.
Not sure what is going on with my subscribe issues right now, but I am on the case and as soon as it is resolved, I’ll be sure to let you know.
Jo x
Hello Jo,I have to say I am very happy you thought of this blog.A friend of mine told me about that as she read your article in tbw and referred to me.I have been in that site for about 2 years and recently have cancelled my profile as,unfortunately,in my opinion has become over the years a place not where,as you clearly say,people want to enjoy the possibility of a long-term,commited relationship but a back to the old stereotype “Mrs Robinson” where older women are seen more as “school ship” that not wonderful human being as they are…of course it is not the same for all of people over there but I have the experience of that just said…I have been dating younger guys since I was 20 and for me never it has been a big deal but something very natural and comfortable…let’s say I don’t see the age gap(in both directions)anything so impossible.I am happy that you and the lady before me have had the experience of a committed relationship as,day by day, we are witnessing to an increasing “not committed” relationships between younger guys-older ladies.And I have to say it is definetily disappointing.
Thanks for this blog,great idea
Cheers
Rosalba
Hello Rosalba,
Thanks for your comment. I think unfortunately the rise of the ‘cougar’ trend and the media interest around it has brought all kinds of unwanted attentions in so many areas. Before, nobody would ever comment on the age difference between my hubby and I, now work colleagues and acquaintances seem to think it’s okay to call me a cougar (my friends aren’t so dumb as to try it)!
And I can imagine that this media frenzy has somehow made it a box for those immature little boys to check – an “I’m gonna bag me a cougar” mentality. What a shame it’s marred your dating experiences. The good ones are out there, but, I guess like all good ones, they are few and far between. I met my husband at a time I least expected it and when I wasn’t looking – so you really never know what is around the corner!
Thanks for posting – really – it’s great to hear from you.
Jo xx